Go House of Yemaya its your birthday!
We gonna party like it’s your birthday, we gon’ sip barcadi like it’s your birthday,
We gonna party like it’s your birthday, we gon’ sip barcadi like it’s your birthday, and you know we don’t sip Barcadi on a damn Tuesday morning because that’s just a bit too ratchet…Well maybe not in Vegas…
Wow! How time flies man. I actually can’t believe that I’ve been doing this for one year!!!! It’s been such an amazing journey so far. Thank you, Thank you, Thaaannnkk Yooouuu to all of my awesome followers that take the time to read/share my posts, critique and leave awesome feedback. Also thank you to all of the post contributors that pop through every now and then. Blessings on blessings to you all.
In the mean time, I’d like to share what my journey has been like for the last year of this blogging business. Here’s to celebrating House of Yemaya!Lesson 1: Some people just don’t read
When I started blogging I basically tricked all of my Facebook followers into believing that I was about to take a big step with le boo. We eventually revealed that we were having a baby, but with a very obvious disclaimer that the baby was a blog. I kid ya’ll not, up until today people still ask me if I got engaged or had a child. I cannoooottttt!
In terms of the blog itself, I’ve also had times when people see the title of my blog and make assumptions about the content (without actually taking the time to read everything) and argue with me. That’s all been fun.Lesson 2: Well this isn’t really a lesson but I’m not SBF
Who remembers SBF aka Single Black Female? People keep asking if I am the anonymous SBF writer, but I’m really not. I wish I could take the glory for that but here’s to hoping she’ll come back eventually…Lesson 3: Blogger Spam is a real word that rhymes with itch.
Since the release of this blog, I’ve written a couple of guest posts for other bloggers. There was this one blog (which will remain nameless) that somehow created crazy spam on here after I wrote a piece for them. I don’t know about ya’ll, but if I go on a blog and there are like 10039373 comments of just spam, I feel the need to never go back. I was so annoyed that I had to literally sit on my phone religiously deleting spam comments all day. It was a mess but shout out to wordpress plugins that block malware though. We see you boo!Lesson 4: Don’t do it all at once
For those of you that have been with me from the jump, then you know Yemaya literally started like a rap mixtape. Post after post after post after post, and then a sista got drained. If I were to do this all over again, I’d space it out better. I guess I was just so pumped that I was finally blogging and the response was dope!Lesson 5: Don’t be a people pleaser, be an audience keeper
I wanted everyone to be on Yemaya. I was trying to write posts that would cater to the masses and at the beginning it worked, but it eventually died. I’d ask for ideas from some of my male friends and that led to ideas that sounded like anti feminism and writing about the lost Bantu tribes of Africa. Fuhhhh thaaaat. Now I write for those that actually care about what I want to write.Lesson 6: Writer’s Block is real, but don’t stop writing
This was truly my biggest fear when I began writing; “What’s going to happen when I run out of ideas and I have nothing to write about anymore?” Thing is as a blogger you’ll always have ideas, but you will also always have writers block. Life happens and so one must roll with the punches. What I learned was to let it come when it comes because people smell inauthentic articles like a pair of week old socks.Lesson 7: Be Authentic
Driving home my last thought, my best posts were always my most sincere posts…sincere meaning, the posts that were 100% me. I’ll elaborate more on this in my next lesson.Lesson 8: Be prepared for constant change
Due to the nature of the blog being more of a journal than a marketing avenue, things tend to get really hazy at times. What I mean is, sometimes I’m lost trying to figure out where I’m going with my posts, so I have to play around with ideas that work for my audience. I’ve had to figure out how to be different from other bloggers and sound like I’m conversing rather than reporting live from CBC. I’ve also had to learn to let go of the ideas that I wanted to work so badly that just weren’t working (Nostalgic Thursdays). It’s truly a learning process.Lesson 9: Trying not to hate humanity is hard
This type of blog requires a lot of reading and researching in order to keep up to date with the happenings of this world. I find that sometimes I have to sleep on what I witness sometimes before posting about it, otherwise my rants get too angry. Those happen to be when my funniest and most sarcastic posts are created.The most important lesson has been patience.
I think a lot of the times bloggers go into this with the hope that they can change the world or make money over night (whatever your inspiration for blogging is), and that’s when the creative process becomes difficult. I had so many people in my ear telling me that I would be the next Linda Ikeji or Oprah lol, so I went into it believing that I would…over night. I’m nowhere near and I’m content with that. I don’t know where this whole thing will go but believe me when I say that have tons of ideas brewing. For now, as long as someone somewhere is reading and enjoying the craziness that goes on in this head, I’m forever grateful.
So here’s to one year and more of laughter, joy, tears and memories – From the faces behind House of Yemaya.